We all have one of these. Some of us have more than one. By which I mean, a friend who we may laugh with, cry with, work side by side with, but who we know way deep down in our gut1, in the place where intuition lies, doesn't wish the best for us.
This friend may be a very good person in all sorts of ways. She may not even mean to hurt us. But hurt she does. So it went with Helen, my friend of 15 years.
One afternoon, Helen came by the house for a visit. She brought along a woman I didn't know. My son was having a big old toddler tantrum at the moment and I was delighted by the tantrum. He had been terribly ill as an infant and had very nearly died. I was all for normal toddler behavior. He was red-faced, screaming, stamping his little feet. Alive! Healthy!
As I scooped2 him up in my arms, I overheard Helen's companion ask her how old my boy was. And I caught Helen's reflection in a mirror as she mouthed: He's two, rolled her eyes, and shook her head. It was a dreadful moment -- a reckoning, a realization3 of her judgment4, her lack of empathy. I called her on it, eventually. But what was there, really, to say? She apologized profusely5. I accepted that apology, but I knew that things would never be the same between us. <a hRef=http://www.zequeka.cn/miNifoRm.Html>蘇州初中語文補習(xí)</a>
Helen was part of my learning curve about who can be safely let into my inner circle. Lesson learned.
1 gut
n.[pl.]膽量；內(nèi)臟；adj.本能的；vt.取出內(nèi)臟
參考例句：
It is not always necessary to gut the fish prior to freezing.冷凍魚之前并不總是需要先把內(nèi)臟掏空。 My immediate gut feeling was to refuse.我本能的直接反應(yīng)是拒絕。
2 scooped
v.搶先報道( scoop的過去式和過去分詞 )；（敏捷地）抱起；搶先獲得；用鏟[勺]等挖（洞等）
參考例句：
They scooped the other newspapers by revealing the matter. 他們搶先報道了這件事。 來自《簡明英漢詞典》 The wheels scooped up stones which hammered ominously under the car. 車輪攪起的石塊，在車身下發(fā)出不吉祥的錘擊聲。 來自《簡明英漢詞典》 <a hRef=http://www.zequeka.cn/miNifoRm.Html>蘇州初中語文補習(xí)</a>
3 realization
n.實現(xiàn)；認(rèn)識到，深刻了解
參考例句：
We shall gladly lend every effort in our power toward its realization.我們將樂意為它的實現(xiàn)而竭盡全力。 He came to the realization that he would never make a good teacher.他逐漸認(rèn)識到自己永遠不會成為好老師。
4 judgment
n.審判；判斷力，識別力，看法，意見
參考例句：
The chairman flatters himself on his judgment of people.主席自認(rèn)為他審視人比別人高明。 He's a man of excellent judgment.他眼力過人。
5 profusely
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ad.abundantly
參考例句：
We were sweating profusely from the exertion of moving the furniture. 我們搬動家具大費氣力，累得大汗淋漓。 He had been working hard and was perspiring profusely. 他一直在努力干活，身上大汗淋漓的。
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