As the Buddha1 once famously said, life is suffering. To love is to lose. In the natural order of things, we will eventually lose our own parents and in the natural order of thing, this will happen after we're already adults. Except when it doesn't.
I lost my dad when I was young -- suddenly, in a car crash. I never had a chance to say goodbye. He never had a chance to see me grow from a messed up girl into a much-less-messed-up woman. He died worried about me. I live with this. And yet, his early death shaped and transformed me in enormously positive ways. I grew up. I've spent my life trying to make him proud.
We metabolize these sudden losses like shocks to our system, and they continue to live inside of us like fault lines, like the traumas2 they are. Ask anyone who has experienced any kind of shocking loss and they will tell you: the air today is just like it was on that day; the scent3 of hibiscus, of an oil refinery4, of powdered donuts, brings it back.
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And suddenly the tears pool in our eyes, our hearts crack open. We live in all the beautiful, human brokenness of these losses. Our awareness5 becomes our teacher. Perhaps it even helps us to embrace the ordinary as the amazing turn of circumstance that it is.
1 Buddha
n.佛；佛像；佛陀
參考例句：
Several women knelt down before the statue of Buddha and prayed.幾個(gè)婦女跪在佛像前祈禱。 He has kept the figure of Buddha for luck.為了圖吉利他一直保存著這尊佛像。
2 traumas
n.心靈創(chuàng)傷( trauma的名詞復(fù)數(shù) )；損傷；痛苦經(jīng)歷；挫折
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She felt exhausted after the traumas of recent weeks. 她經(jīng)受了最近幾個(gè)星期的痛苦之后感到精疲力竭。 Conclusion: Safety lens of spectacles can protect the occurrence of ocular traumas. 結(jié)論：安全鏡片可以預(yù)防眼鏡碎片所致的眼外傷。 來(lái)自互聯(lián)網(wǎng)
3 scent
n.氣味，香味，香水，線索，嗅覺；v.嗅，發(fā)覺
參考例句：
The air was filled with the scent of lilac.空氣中彌漫著丁香花的芬芳。 The flowers give off a heady scent at night.這些花晚上散發(fā)出醉人的芳香。
4 refinery
n.精煉廠，提煉廠
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They built a sugar refinery.他們建起了一座榨糖廠。 The purpose of oil refinery is to refine crude petroleum.煉油廠的主要工作是提煉原油。
5 awareness
n.意識(shí)，覺悟，懂事，明智
參考例句：
There is a general awareness that smoking is harmful.人們普遍認(rèn)識(shí)到吸煙有害健康。 Environmental awareness has increased over the years.這些年來(lái)人們的環(huán)境意識(shí)增強(qiáng)了。
《如何面對(duì)突如其來(lái)的死亡》添加時(shí)間：2024-12-14；更新時(shí)間：2025-03-09
