Yes! People who don't like themselves are a pain in the neck!
Usually, people with a poor self-image use one of two irritating strategies. They either:
a) criticize you a lot or
b) they criticize themselves a lot.
STRATEGY A: They criticize you a lot. They figure that by criticizing other people they can feel better about themselves.
Let's take Fred, who feels inferior（自卑的） . Fred thinks he has a big nose and piggy eyes. He also secretly feels a bit stupid.
So what's his strategy to feel better about himself? He criticizes all his friends. He has names for them like "Flathead", "Chicken Legs" and "Dogbrain". Whenever someone else makes a mistake, he announces it to the whole class. (He probably doesn't even realize he criticizes people—or why he does it.)
If you have parents, friends or brothers and sisters who don't like themselves—they might criticize you and everyone around them. Just remember that they criticize you because they have a problem. If you remember that they are actually hurting inside, you won't get so upset by their behaviour. <a hRef=http://www.zequeka.cn/miNiform.html>蘇州作文培訓(xùn)</a>
STRATEGY B: Some people who don't like themselves criticize themselves a lot. They use reverse psychology1...
Take Mary who doesn't like herself. She's always telling you, "You are prettier than me. You are smarter. Nobody likes me." She's hoping that you will reply, "No Mary! You are clever. You are beautiful." After a while, people like Mary get on your nerves!
In a nutshell
When we don't like ourselves, we irritate other people. We also put ourselves through a lot of stress. When we accept ourselves a little better, we don't play these games.
How Can I Like Myself?
In our hearts, most of us believe we should be doing better. We think that we should have gotten higher grades. We want to be popular and hang out with the "in" crowd. We feel we don't measure up to our parents' expectations. Our parents help to confirm this idea when they ask, "Why can't you be more like your brother?"
Whenever you are feeling low, be your own best friend. Accept that, up to now, you have lived your life the best way you know how. No one sets out to screw up their life! Like anyone, you've done the odd stupid thing. With more information you'll likely do better in the future.
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Liking2 yourself means forgiving yourself. If you have made some serious mistakes, if you have hurt some people—and yourself—feeling guilty won't help.
If you are feeling guilty about something, you have already suffered enough. Being guilty for another six months won't help anybody.
Forget perfection and aim for improvement.
It's a funny thing. When you forgive yourself for your own mistakes, you automatically begin to let others off the hook for the same things.
"But I'm Not Brilliant..."
You might look at yourself and say, "I'm not as beautiful as my sister, I'm not as talented as my friends and I'm not brilliant at anything! How can I feel good about me?"
Fact: Nobody is good at everything and most of us have those thoughts!
But here's the lowdown! Talent and beauty are very useful—but there are plenty of talented and beautiful people around whom we don't necessarily admire. And some of them are a pan in the butt3!
The qualities most of us value above all others are honesty, courage, persistence4, generosity5 and humility6. Take a look at this list and you'll find something interesting. You aren't born with these things. You develop them. Anyone can have them! If you want self-respect, and respect from others, you don't have to be an Einstein or a super-model.
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You simply work at developing your own honesty, determination, generosity, humility and courage. It is called "character".
In a nutshell
How you feel about yourself is in your hands.
1 psychology
n.心理，心理學(xué)，心理狀態(tài)
參考例句：
She has a background in child psychology.她受過(guò)兒童心理學(xué)的教育。 He studied philosophy and psychology at Cambridge.他在劍橋大學(xué) 學(xué)習(xí)哲學(xué)和心理學(xué)。
2 liking
n.愛(ài)好；嗜好；喜歡
參考例句：
The word palate also means taste or liking.Palate這個(gè)詞也有“口味”或“嗜好”的意思。 I must admit I have no liking for exaggeration.我必須承認(rèn)我不喜歡夸大其詞。
3 butt
n.笑柄；煙蒂；槍托；臀部；v.用頭撞或頂
參考例句：
The water butt catches the overflow from this pipe.大水桶盛接管子里流出的東西。 He was the butt of their jokes.他是他們的笑柄。
4 persistence
n.堅(jiān)持，持續(xù)，存留
參考例句：
The persistence of a cough in his daughter puzzled him.他女兒持續(xù)的咳嗽把他難住了。 He achieved success through dogged persistence.他靠著堅(jiān)持不懈取得了成功。
5 generosity
n.大度，慷慨，慷慨的行為
參考例句：
We should match their generosity with our own.我們應(yīng)該像他們一樣慷慨大方。 We adore them for their generosity.我們欽佩他們的慷慨。
6 humility
n.謙遜，謙恭
參考例句：
Humility often gains more than pride.謙遜往往比驕傲收益更多。 His voice was still soft and filled with specious humility.他的聲音還是那么溫和，甚至有點(diǎn)謙卑。
《Do I Need To Like Myself?》添加時(shí)間：2024-12-14；更新時(shí)間：2025-03-09
